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So About Parenting…Life Unmasked

Parenting. Let’s face it. Did any of us really fully understand what we were getting into when we became parents?

Joy is beginning a new blog meme today. Life Unmasked. Often we come away from the virtual world of social media with the image that life is all roses for most people even though we all know that no one has it altogether.

So my Life Unmasked for today? Parenting.

Some days I just don’t like being a parent.

Like on the days I lose it with my child. On those days that I become that screaming mother I pass judgement on in Walmart yelling at her child. Except I did it in private without the audience of a superstore. Still. It’s no different.

I don’t lose it very often with him. But then there are times when the planets align and not in a good way.

No I didn’t spank or beat my child, but the verbal barrage wasn’t good either. And sometimes that is even worse.

No one tells  you that this little person you love more than life itself can make you so frustrated and angry. How their immaturity can cause so much distress.

How is that possible? How can you love someone so much and at the same time become so utterly frustrated with them?

No one warned me about this part of parenting. There is no manual giving specific instructions on how to parent your child and their personality and how it might clash with your own personality. What works for one child may have no effect on another.

So he cried and I cried. I asked for his forgiveness and then I asked for His forgiveness.

We talked about how he needs to make better choices and think through his actions and reminded him how much I love him no matter what choices he makes.

I listened to Him as He healed my heart with grace.

And in the meantime I pray He will stand in the gap where I fail and continue giving me grace for the parenting of this amazing gift He has given us.

Life: Unmasked

  • Anna - September 14, 2011 - 12:04 pm

    (hug)
    I’m sure my mother felt like this often. She survived. so did we, come to think of it.
    Thankyou for the gift of your honesty. You’re leaning in all the right places…ReplyCancel

  • floyd - September 14, 2011 - 12:40 pm

    Oh man, how many times have I been there… Not really a question at all… I think God does call for us to care and try to shape and mold our children. Yes, I’m sure they’re going to pick up some of our habits or personality quirks, but since we know God, I think all things are a little better. Your forgiving and repentant heart for example.

    Although we’ve made a ton of mistakes as parents, I’m reminded of how much better people God has turned us into, due to the gifts of our children granted by Him in our lives. I think that in itself is a miracleReplyCancel

  • Jessica - September 14, 2011 - 7:36 pm

    Sometimes it just bubbles up and explodes out of nowhere…or at least it feels that way. Thankful for grace, forgiveness, and starting anew.ReplyCancel

  • Rachel @ Grasping for Objectivity - September 18, 2011 - 8:28 pm

    So true, Amy. I agree – NONE of us knew what parenting was when we signed up for it. It’s tough, but it’s oh-so-good for us!ReplyCancel